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I’m delighted to welcome Del Palmer, musician and recording engineer as this month’s featured guest.

Del Palmer is a man of many talents. He’s a recording and mixing engineer, bass player and recording artist. Last year, Del released his solo album Gift which is a beautifully crafted, eclectic piece of work, imbued with jazz and rock influences. 2007 saw the release of Leap of Faith, Del’s 1st solo album which is a very melodic collection of songs – my personal favourite is Man Out of Time, such a magical track. In addition, he has released an EP called Outtees and Alternatives which is well worth checking out.

Del is also well known for his musical association with Kate Bush both as a musician and recording engineer. He played in the original KT Bush Band back in 1977 and has worked with Kate Bush both as a musician and then as an engineer on many of her albums. For instance, Del was credited as the recording and mixing engineer on Kate Bush’s ‘Aerial’ as well as recording engineer on her ‘Sensual World’ album.

As is the tradition in these Inspirational People blogs, I asked Del Palmer one question:

What is the best piece of career/life advice you’ve ever received?

This is what he said:

‘So, The best and most fitting piece of advice I ever had was, in fact the running joke amongst musicians when I started..
It was.. Never give up your day job..It was always said amongst musicians as a joke and young musicians back then always thought of themselves as bullet proof and destined for the “Big Time”.. I know I did.. However I always saw it as meaning have another string to your bow… Keep an alternative up your sleeve.. I have been fortunate to have had music as my life’s work but I always have an alternative handy..
Just in case…’

Del’s advice of having an alternative career or ‘string to your bow’ strikes a chord for many reasons. Earning a living in music can be a precarious business (and indeed within the arts generally) so having a back-up plan can be a pragmatic move. Being resourceful by lining up a fall-back option doesn’t have to mean one is any less dedicated to pursuing a goal; it just may mean you have other avenues available should the need arise.

Besides, as we develop, our career interests sometimes subtly shift and evolve. Being open to alternatives can work in our favour to allow us to think about our career options more flexibly and strategically. You just never know what’s around the corner…

Sincere thanks to Del Palmer for his insightful contribution and also, for his kindness.

*Photograph used with kind permission.

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Because things are the way they are, things will not stay the way they are. “
(Bertolt Brecht)

Brecht had a point. Everything changes. Our careers and aspirations constantly shift and evolve, sometimes in unexpected directions. It can come as a shock to suddenly realise that what you wanted for yourself 5 years ago might be quite different from what you need today.  Could it be that as we slowly, imperceptibly change over time, we may not recognise the needs of our present, emerging self?

Take Mr B for example. Hungry and determined he starts his career with a long-term plan that matches his aspirations. He then spends years climbing the corporate ladder, makes partner in the firm and achieves the status, lifestyle and security he set his sights on.

So when he achieves his picture of success say 15 years later, why does he wake up and say ‘is this it?’. This isn’t what I expected. I got what I wanted but the view looks different somehow.

There isn’t a moral to this story except perhaps that what you wanted yesterday may not be what you want today. You probably aren’t the same person at 40 that you were at 25.  Who are you now?  What are your values? What would you love to be doing? What needs to change? How can you challenge yourself in new ways?

Nothing stays exactly the same and that’s what’s so exciting.

Oh the possibilities…

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Alain de Botton writes beautiful books. He has in fact written several beautiful books; philosophical musings and essays on love, travel, work, architecture, status and literature. I remember reading de Botton’s How Proust Can Change Your Life when I was in my twenties, a humorous and unusual self-help manual/analysis of Proust’s À la recherche du temps perdu. (The closest I ever got to reading Proust it might be said).

Mr de Botton’s most recent book The Pleasures and Sorrows of Work is another thing of beauty with exquisite photographs taken by the documentary photographer Richard Baker. If you’re fascinated by work and careers as I am, this might be one to check out. He considers what makes a job meaningful or soul-destroying; exploring everything from rocket science to art through to biscuit manufacturing.

Alain de Botton is not only an accomplished writer but also an entrepreneur. He is a founding member of the School of life which seeks to make learning relevant and offers courses on everything from what it is to have a meaningful life to finding the job you love.

Last year, Alain gave a ted talk on Success and career anxiety. De Botton suggests, quite refreshingly, that in relation to our careers at least we probably can’t have it all. To succeed in one sphere may involve some sort of loss in another. Inspired by his thoughtful work, I invited Alain to be EnormousYes’ featured Inspirational Person of the month and asked him to share what he felt was the best piece of career advice he’d ever received. To my delight he responded. This is what he wrote:

“The best piece of career advice I received was from my father who said to me that the best choice is the one that makes you feel least sad about all the other choices you didn’t take. For me, this was useful because it suggests that no one choice is ever perfect, there will always be regrets, but at the same time, you need to go for the thing that captures as many of your talents and inclinations as possible.”

This, I think, is useful advice. To acknowledge that there are many choices open to us, amplifies the value of what we choose to say yes to. And for every choice there will also be a sense of loss. The door we didn’t open, the path we didn’t walk down.

On the other hand, the good news is that choosing a career which plays to your talents, strengths and interests may minimise your sense of regret for the choices you didn’t make. Doing something you enjoy and doing it well may bring its own source of pleasure and inner contentment.

References:
Pleasures and Sorrows of Work by Alain De Botton (2009)
Alain de Botton: A kinder, gentler philosophy of success: Ted talks
How Proust Can Change Your Life by Alain De Botton

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Each month I invite an individual whose work I’ve found inspirational, to share what they feel is the best piece of advice that they have ever received in their career or life. This month I approached Dr Barbara Fredrickson, who is Professor of Psychology at the University of North Carolina.

Some of you may be familiar with Dr. Fredrickson’s work on positive emotions, which is an interesting body of research with potentially important implications for psychological health and well-being.  In brief, her broaden-and-build theory suggests that experiencing positive emotions such as love, joy and interest may literally broaden our mindsets and build on our inner resources. Experiencing joy, for instance, may spark a sense of playfulness, whilst experiencing interest in something may trigger the desire for exploration. (For the interested reader, check out Dr. Fredrickson’s book called Positivity or in my previous blog on the positivity ratio.)

So, what did Dr. Fredrickson consider the best piece of advice she had ever received? She wrote:

‘…(the) best advice I ever got was “Follow your interests” which translates into, don’t follow the money or do popular or derivative work.  Develop your contribution by developing your passions.’

This resonates for me. By following our passions we are more likely to tap into positive emotions, which the theory suggests will trigger behaviours to extend and build our intellectual and psychological resources. By doing what we love, we may then go the extra mile to further develop our competence in areas that we enjoy. As well as developing our skills, we may feel more authentic when we play to our strengths, creating a sense of well-being.

Dr. Fredrickson has followed her interests in positive psychology which has enabled her to develop her contribution within society. Perhaps following our interests is key to creating meaning and fulfillment in whatever we choose to do.

References:

Fredrickson, B. L. (2004). The broaden-and-build Theory of Positive Emotions. The Royal Society

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Welcome back to our new feature Inspirational Person of the Month. The idea is we get to talk to an inspirational person and ask them just one question.  And this month’s inspirational person is Dr. Barry Schwartz.

More on the question later, first let me introduce Barry Schwartz.

Dr Schwartz is an American Psychologist and professor of psychology at Swarthmore College.  I first came across Barry Schwartz’s work on practical wisdom after watching his ted talk on practical wisdom which he gave in 2009. I was so inspired by his message about autonomy, practical wisdom and morality, I wrote a blog about it (see previous blog: The Master Virtue). His talk is very engaging but also his message is enlightening, highlighting the importance of giving people sufficient flexibility to enable them to demonstrate virtue over self-interest. (You can read more about this in the Wired article if you’re interested).

Schwartz has also written about the implications of the abundance of choice in Western society.  His book The Paradox of Choice, seeks to highlight that more can sometimes feel like less, when we are faced with too much choice. Research suggests that too much choice may lead the individual to inaction and ultimately dissatisfaction. Too many options, paradoxically, decrease our freedom to choose because we may become less inclined to make a choice at all in the face of so many options. Or if we do choose, we fear we might be disappointed that our choice was, inevitably, less than perfect. Damned if you choose, damned if you don’t.  Interesting stuff.

So the question we asked Dr Schwartz went something like this:

What is the one best piece of advice in your career/life you’ve ever
received?

And his response:

Thank you Odette.  I would say the best piece of advice I got when it came to choosing a career was to “think small.”  What this meant was to think carefully about the day-to-day life I would live in one or another job, rather than about such things as career trajectories and possible long-term achievements.  I followed that advice, and have never had a single regret.

Barry

What stood out to me from Dr. Schwartz’s words, is that he did not highlight aiming for the sky, or thinking anything was possible. Actually the reverse. Instead, he suggests that by focusing on the day-to-day reality of the job role, rather than future possibilities, decision-making is based on the small things, the detail.

By focusing attention on what you will actually be doing in the job, career choice is more likely to be grounded in reality rather than an unlived fantasy of future possible rewards.  And in the long-run, when it comes right down to it, that may turn out to be a little more satisfying.

 

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Welcome to a new monthly feature at EnormousYes: Inspirational People!

Ok so the idea is that EnormousYes gets to talk to their designated INSPIRATIONAL person of the month and asks them just one question. I’ll come onto the question in just a moment.

Daniel PinkThis month’s Inspirational person is the very talented Dan Pink. EnormousYes likes Dan Pink because of his provocative ideas and creative spirit. A gen-Xer who went to Yale law school but didn’t ever practice as a lawyer. His last proper job was at the Whitehouse as Speechwriter for Al Gore (nice gig if you can get it) and since then he has written 4 books focused on the ever-changing world of work.

And Dan writes great books; including a career book called The Adventures of Johnny Bunko: The Last Career Guide You’ll Ever Need which is written in the style of a Japanese manga comic and The Whole New Brain where he talks about how right-brained, creative people will come to rule the world! Way to go.

So here comes the question:

*What is the one best piece of advice in your career/life you’ve ever received?*

And here follows Dan’s generous response:

Happy to do this. I’ve gotten lots of good advice, but the best is probably this:
Think for yourself instead of following the herd.
Cheers
Dan

EnormousYES to Daniel Pink. Thank you for not following the herd. We’re richer for it.

Footnote: The Road less travelled and all of that…
And hey here’s a final thought; maybe going your own way can actually make all the difference (think Robert Frost). What’s the risk? Instead of ending up someplace you didn’t want to go and someone you didn’t want to be, you might just find yourself somewhere that makes you happy.

Imagine that.

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